A bit about how I work
At the centre of the therapy is our relationship together and this is where I would start…with getting to know you and spending time listening to your worries and feelings. Being able to talk to someone in an accepting, non-judgemental and confidential place can feel liberating and safe, allowing you to acknowledge and explore parts of yourself that may not have felt safe enough to be present before. We can make space for all of these parts and welcome them.
I work in a way that not only helps you to pay attention to how your mind is feeling, but also sensing in your body, increasing your awareness of the whole of you. Our bodies are continually giving us information (for example, feeling tense and anxious) that we so often try to ignore. When we appreciate that these feelings are our body’s way of trying to get our attention and we listen to this deeper knowing, we can start to see what we are struggling with in new ways, allowing change to follow naturally.
Being in therapy can often highlight patterns that we may have started in order to protect ourselves or to help us cope, but that no longer serve us or are causing us suffering. Having time to explore these patterns can build a greater sense of understanding of ourselves. When we are able to notice these patterns, we can make new choices that serve us better.
So many of us live in a near constant state of stress and worry, feeling overwhelmed and drained. It can be hard to know how to change things and to start to feel more at peace and in touch with your relaxed self.
When we experience overwhelming and difficult emotions, our natural response can be to criticise ourselves for having them, avoid them or try to push them away. However, when we practice turning towards those difficult feelings, with curiosity and openness, we can often find relief and change and a greater understanding of ourselves.
By choosing to talk about your fears and worries and paying full attention to them, really acknowledging and accepting them, can be a powerful way of changing and releasing them.
Having originally trained and worked as a mental health nurse in the NHS, I went on to train in Person-centred counselling. I discovered that by moving the focus away from illness and towards self-awareness, self-understanding and self-acceptance, clients are empowered to make the changes they are seeking.
I have a passion for continual learning and discovering new ideas. I feel it is an honour to be a counsellor, to connect deeply with people, share their inner worlds and help them bring about lasting change.
I am a member of the BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) and work to their ethical guidelines.
Creating time for yourself
The calming effect of being out in the open air can help us gain a new perspective on our worries and allow new thoughts and feelings to arise.
The healing powers of talking and nature combined
I offer walking counselling on the edge of Stroud, in beautiful natural surroundings where the healing power of talking in nature can help you to reflect on your troubles. When you walk, you have time and space to process your emotions, reflect on your feelings and listen to your inner voice. It's often easier to talk about difficult issues while walking outside.
I usually suggest that we meet on Minchinhampton or Rodborough Common, where there is plenty of space to walk, places to sit and beautiful views.
When the weather is too bad to be outside, we can meet inside in Stroud or Cirencester or on Zoom.
Relaxation is the key
During a counselling session, difficult feelings may arise. If you would like, I am able to end sessions with a variety of grounding and relaxation techniques which help you to go away from each session feeling safe and held. This allows you to re calibrate in the new found space you have created in your life.
My commitment to you is to ensure that you feel emotionally fit to go about the rest of your day when you leave the session. These techniques take a few minutes which is why I offer 60 minutes for each counselling session rather than the usual 50 minutes. I feel it is important to take our time and not feel rushed.
£45 for each 60 minute session (or £120 when booked as a block of 3)
For walking counselling, the initial session can be in a room or on Zoom, although this is not essential.
All or some of your counselling sessions can stay indoors if you prefer it that way.
.... High up on tops of hills with far reaching views .... or in hidden forested valleys.....
....reflections by a beautiful lake....
Some of my favourite walks....
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change"